We only truly begin to live when we, without hesitation or reserve, spend the personal gifts and resources we cherish in the healing of the brokenness of those God brings, moment by moment, across our paths… it is in the risk that we find life…
God clearly speaks to us through the varied individuals He draws our attention to in a day… if we take the necessary care to sustain that attention. Sometimes their unique language, which may be non-verbal, or even subconscious, means more to our reality than our own… often these encounters are the keys we need to unlock something that we don’t have the power to unlock alone… if we don’t give in to the prison warden of Pride.
We can only grasp one another’s vision, when we cry one another’s tears. When we grasp one another’s vision, together, we discover the will of God.
Something of our own deepest reality is reflected in the depths of others who are aware of it within themselves. The depth of who we are is revealed in the intensity of process, and mysteriously preserved in our relationships with others… sometimes even subconsciously. This is the full and most genuine expression of any ‘at homeness’ we could feel.
The difference between optimism and reality is a courageous vision and a miracle.
“So to those who keep promising other Christians happiness on God’s behalf, when He has never promised it Himself, please stop. I know too many unemployed people, too many heart sore divorcees, and too many homeless saints trying their best to seek God through their problems. They don’t want to go to your church because they know you will likely only make them feel worse about their situation. If you have a practical way to help them, go for it, otherwise learn to hold them in their pain and confusion. Stop suggesting they ‘deserve happiness’, and that something must be wrong with their spirituality, or their lives would be just peachy”. Sean Tucker (www.unlearning.co.za)
Very few people, let alone Christians, honestly know how to ‘hold’ others in ‘their pain and confusion’. I think this is because very few people are able to hold themselves in their own pain and confusion… they are too busy trying to avoid it… and honestly, yes, a great deal of ‘Christianity’ is a thinly cloaked form of avoidance, which is why it can be so much-the-more hurtful to genuine people with genuine struggles in life. It is clear that Christ was no avoider of pain. For Christ, true happiness comes by facing reality head-on, in faith that a genuine resolution will come at the right time, bringing with it genuine transformation of the self.
There are those in this would who are hell-bent on living life as a total incarnation of their own inner selfishness, secular and/or religious, regardless of the effect that it has on others around them… and we ‘worship’ these people… They will go to any length to ensure that the ridiculousness of their state remains secure. Learning compassion and humility is the only remedy for their sad and sorry condition. For this they must become the students of the very people they have learned to hate… and few ever do.